Reputation: overall quality or character as seen or judged by people in general
It's hard sometimes. How do we release what people think of us? How do we not worry about their misgivings or misunderstandings? How do we do what we know to be right and then let it go?
One of the hardest things for me to fully grasp is that the only opinion that matters is God's opinion of me. There have been times when I wanted to defend myself vehemently. There have been times I have done it. This is what I have learned: those who want to think badly of you, will; those who want to think good of you, will.
And there's nothing we can do about it.
I have been in a situation or two where I tried desperately to explain myself. I have wanted to clear the air, and bring understanding to issues which had been left unattended for too long. I have wanted explanations to strike the heart, and love to overflow. But it didn't work. Not one of my words made the least bit of sense to the people I was talking to. In fact, the words I said and the things I did only made matters worse because they perceived my motives to be dark and angry.
So, what do you do? That is an excellent question. Here in Matthew Jesus tells the disciples not to worry about what others say. He tells them everything that is hidden will be seen. He doesn't want words said by others to cause the disciples to stop doing what they were called to do. He tells them to talk to those who listen, and move on from those who don't. And this... this that he calls us to do, it is not as easy as it seems it should be.
Because sometimes reconciliation is truly desired. And it seems right, and good to want such a thing. But the recognition that reconciliation takes two is huge. Because if they don't want it, it wont happen. And this is what Jesus is saying, I think.
If they wont hear you, your words, your heart, your cries, then move on. Staying there can get you stuck. Move on and trust that God will reveal all in His time.
It's not easy, and I'm still learning to do this.